Wednesday, May 24, 2006

Mother Virago, 1930-2006

Thank you all for your kind offers and thoughts in my last post.

My mother passed away at the hospital just before midnight on Tuesday night. I regret that we were not able to get her home and into hospice care before the end, but I'm glad that I was home during her last days and was able to spend a number of hours with her every day, in what was really just a coincidental aligning of circumstances.

Virgo Sis arrived today and we made the funeral and cremation arrangements. Part of Mom's ashes will be placed in a niche next to her daughter, Ms. V. We are planning to scatter the rest some place Mom loved -- if not Paris, then perhaps some pretty domestic coastal region. I found the following poem marked by an asterisk in Mom's collection of Victorian poetry and so I'm reading it at her memorial on Saturday. I offer the poem to you all as an early edition of Friday Poetry Blogging.

Christina Rossetti

Remember me when I am gone away,
Gone far away into the silent land;
When you can no more hold me by the hand,
Nor I half turn to go, yet turning stay.
Remember me when no more day by day
You tell me of our future that you planned:
Only remember me; you understand
It will be late to counsel then or pray.
Yet if you should forget me for a while
And afterwards remember, do not grieve:
For if the darkness and corruption leave
A vestige of the thoughts that once I had,
Better by far you should forget and smile
Than that you should remember and be sad.

And, as an early edition of Friday Random 10 (well, not quite 10 and definitely not random), here are some of the songs I'm going to put on a CD and play. When you get the the Guns 'n' Roses, you'll think I'm joking, but I'm not. My Mom loved GNR. Seriously. I think she wanted to adopt Axl Rose. Anyway, here's the list of possibilities, some obvious, but they're bands and songs Mom liked and they're appropriate:

1. The Beatles, "In My Life"
2. The Flaming Lips, "Do You Realize??"
3. R. E. M.'s cover of "Pale Blue Eyes"
4. Guns 'n' Roses, "Paradise City"
5. The Rolling Stones, "Ruby Tuesday"

Does anyone have any suggestions along similar lines -- especially pretty, hook-laden rock? I have a little time to get the CD to the funeral director. Seriously, suggestions (especially if you know it's available on iTunes or elsewhere) would be much appreciated because I'm drawing a blank.


FF said...

The Cranberries, "When You're Gone"

FF said...

The Cranberries, "I'm Still Remembering"

FF said...

The Cranberries, "Joe"

What Now? said...

Oh, Dr. V., I'm so sorry. But I'm glad you were with your mom at the end, and the Christina Rossetti poem is lovely -- although I don't think I could get through reading it aloud without crying.

I'm loving the Rossetti/Guns 'n' Roses combo, by the way. Your mom must have been quite a woman!

La Lecturess said...

Dr. V., I'm so sorry.

New Kid on the Hallway said...

I'm so sorry to read this, and glad you got to spend time with her at the end. That's a beautiful poem. Sending best wishes to you and your family.

Sarah McLachlan songs (like "Angel" and "I Will Remember You") are very pretty, though not exactly rock.

Bardiac said...

My condolences, Dr. V. I'm so sorry.

The poem's a great one; I only wish I had some music suggestions, but I'm drawing a blank.

Best, wishes to you and your family.

Murky Thoughts said...

So sorry! A tuneful GNR-esque song that comes to mind is "Lights" by the band "Journey."

meg said...

Ohhhh. Ohhhh. My best thoughts are directed to alla-y'all at highest power.

My suggestions for the Mamalicious soundtrack:
Siouxie and the Banshees, "Dear Prudence"
Jeff Buckley's cover of Leonard Cohen's "Hallelujah"
"Wimoweh" (version of your choice)
Joey Ramone, "What A Wonderful World"

I'm thinking of you all.

HeoCwaeth said...

I am so sorry for your loss, Dr. V.

Dr. Richard Scott Nokes said...

My prayers are with you and your family.

George said...

I am so very sorry. Here are some music suggestions:

David Bowie, "Heroes"
Breeders, "Divine Hammer"
Bruce Springsteen, "Lonesome Day," "All that Heaven Will Allow"
Foo Fighters, "Learn to Fly"
Guided by Voices, "I Am a Tree"
Pretenders, "Show Me"
Keith Richards, "How I Wish"
Radiohead, "Black Star"
Red Hot Chili Peppers, "Around the World"
Rolling Stones, "Imagination"
The Waterboys, "That Was the River"
Yeah Yeah Yeahs, "Maps"

Another Damned Medievalist said...

I think there should be some U2 there. I'm really, really sorry, but so glad you were there. Your mom sounds totally cool.

Karl Steel said...

My condolences. It's an awful thing to lose a mother.

Some hooky rock that you're likely to have at hand:

'Feel' Big Star
'Surrender' Cheap Trick
'Ace of Spades' Motorhead
'Alex Chilton' The Replacements

Cats & Dogma said...

Oh, Dr. V, that's terrible terrible news. my best thoughts are heading your way.

Ancrene Wiseass said...

Oh, honey, I'm so sorry. This is terrible, sad news. I wish I could be there.

R.E.M. "Everybody Hurts"
U2, "Where the Streets Have No Name"
James Taylor, "Fire and Rain"
Mary Chapin Carpenter, "In My Heaven"
Emmylou Harris or Johnny Cash, "Wayfaring Stranger"
The Pretenders, "I'll Stand By You"
Peter Gabriel, "Solsbury Hill

Ancrene Wiseass said...

Casey Chambers, "Mother"
Annie Lennox, "Into the West"
Coldplay, "Yellow"
David Gray, "Silver Lining"

Tiruncula said...

Dr. V, my thoughts and prayers are winging your way. Glad Virgo Sis is with you.

Marcelle Proust said...

Mes condolences les plus sinceres.

J J Cohen said...

I am very sorry for your loss.

anhaga said...

Condolences on your loss, Dr. V -- my thoughts are with you and your family.

It may not be what you're looking for, but Billy Joel's "Lullaby" is both readily available and a really beautiful song.

Anonymous said...

You and your family are in my thoughts.

Dr. Lisa said...

My condolences to all the Viragos.

TheGreenKnight said...

I'm very sorry for your loss.

The Pastry Pirate said...

Though I never met your mom in all the years we've been friends, I felt that I got to know her as a smart, sassy, caring woman through your stories and anecdotes. She was a great woman, whose spirit and intelligence live on in you. My love to you both.

Geoffrey Chaucer said...

I'm so sorry for your loss - you're in my thoughts.

Scrivener said...

I'm so sorry for your loss. I haven't been by for a while, so I'm sorry that my condolences are so late too.